Ever feel disconnected from your significant other?
Life is chaotic. Sometimes good chaos, sometimes bad, and mostly a whole mix of in-between good and bad. As a result of chaos, there are times where we feel really disconnected from our partner.
We don’t mean for it to happen. But when we get busy, we prioritize work, socializing, hobbies, rest, responsibility, children, etc. over our relationships. And sometimes in relationships people have to put the other person last. However, when this happens too many times, we start to feel disconnected from each other.
When Hurricane Chaos comes rumbling through, a relationship will flourish as long as the couple is willing to do the maintenance and repair. This means first recognizing a need for connection, followed by purposeful action to improve the relationship.
One major way to maintain the integrity of the relationship is simply just… LISTEN.
Be interested in your significant other’s hopes, values, pain, opinion, and experiences. By getting to know your partner better (improving this is possible no matter how long you’ve been together), you create more empathy, more understanding, more compassion. All of this makes you better at being able to anticipate their needs, assert boundaries when needed, and decrease conflict.
So if you’re feeling disconnected, spend some time with your loved one talking deeply. Maybe put the phones away while you have dinner together. Maybe go for a walk together. Maybe wake up early together and sit down for some coffee/tea.
Here are a week worth of questions you can use to connect with your significant other every day this week:
- What do you most worry about when it comes to your overall health?
- If you had a magic wand to create paradise in your life, what would that look like?
- What is your earliest memory?
- What were your top three fears when you were a little kid?
- How do you think you would have handled today’s societal issues as a teen?
- Who was one of your role models when you were a young adult?
- What are three things on your bucket list?
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